\u201cBe yourself; everyone else is already taken.\u201d<\/p>Oscar Wilde<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The real you is the person you are when nobody is watching. But when other people enter the
picture, things can change. You can change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Not Be Yourself In Three Easy Steps<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You see a person or a group of people.<\/li>
2. You analyze their personality, preferences, and relationship to you.<\/li>
3. You change based on how you wish to be perceived by the person\/group.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

   It\u2019s how a rough-around-the-edges guy becomes prince charming to get a girl. It\u2019s how a shy
   high schooler with no prior interest in drugs starts doing them to fit in. It\u2019s how a jokester acts
   serious around serious people so as not to offend anyone or get embarrassed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   
   It\u2019s why some people like to keep friend groups separate, because they use a different identity
   with each group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   
   There are benefits to altering yourself (such as fitting in nearly anywhere), but the consequence
   is that every time you do it, the real you is hidden, and with enough repetition, you can lose
   yourself in a pile of masks. It will never feel quite right either, because the real you is the only
   version that feels completely natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   
   I read a story on Reddit about a guy who used a fake Australian accent one day. His
   convincingness impressed quite a few people and he got a kick out of it. Eleven years later, this
   American is still believed to be Australian \u2013 complete with a fake history he made up \u2013 because
   he never stopped pretending. He said his whole life feels like a lie and he doesn\u2019t know how to
   get out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   How to Always Be Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

   To be yourself, don\u2019t worry about yourself. It\u2019s only when you analyze how you come across to
   others and what others are thinking about you that behavior modification seems appealing.
   When you look at others with yourself in mind, it\u2019s like using them as a mirror \u2013 you try to see
   yourself through their eyes and adjust the image accordingly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   
   When you\u2019re by yourself, however, there\u2019s nobody around to impress; no one to analyze. It\u2019s
   just you, and because of that, you don\u2019t focus on yourself, but on what you\u2019re doing. It\u2019s the
   answer to how to be yourself all the time. Shut down your inner clamoring for approval and
   focus on being present in the external world. You\u2019ll have a lot more fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

   Four Benefits of Being Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

   1. You instantly become a better listener.<\/strong> In the times I\u2019ve not been a good listener, it was
      because I was thinking about myself or what I wanted to say. In the times I\u2019ve listened well, I
      was present in the moment and tuned into the conversation, rather than worrying about
      myself.
      <\/li>
   2. You will be less manipulative.<\/strong> When you\u2019re trying to adjust your hair in the mirror, you
      might look at it from different angles, try a few styles, and even tilt the mirror. Similarly, when
      you try to adjust your image through the eyes of another person, it often results in subtle
      manipulation to get them to see you in a different way, and people hate being manipulated for
      obvious reasons. If you\u2019re being yourself, the real you is the person they see, and they\u2019ll
      subconsciously appreciate your straight-forward identity; of course, people will still
      misinterpret who you are, but that will happen no matter what you do.
      <\/li>
   3. Many people will like you more.<\/strong> When you act like yourself compared to managing your
      image, some people will like you more and some will like you less, and that\u2019s the way it should
      be. People pleasers are often the ones who aren\u2019t themselves, because they want to be liked by
      everyone, even though that is impossible with nearly 7 billion unique personalities and value
      systems. Be yourself and the people who naturally like your personality, will really like you for
      being genuine, and that\u2019s worth it.
      <\/li>
   4. You\u2019ll feel more relaxed.<\/strong> Managing an image takes a lot of effort because you have to stifle
      your natural tendencies, analyze the environment, and fabricate a suitable image. But being
      yourself takes no effort at all \u2013 you react and live from the heart, so to speak. It\u2019s relaxing to
      know that you don\u2019t have to put on a front because you\u2019re comfortable in your own skin!<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Be Yourself Guidelines<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      1. Do not aim to please. if you have to aim, you\u2019re not being yourself. Even in situations of
         courtesy, you can act from your value of being courteous, rather than from wanting to
         appear courteous \u2013 let it come from within.<\/li>
      2. Focus on being fully present in your external environment (rather than in your own
         internal world); react and create without over-analyzing.<\/li>
      3. Do not worry about how others see you, or it will unnaturally alter your behavior and
         probably make you seem insecure.<\/li>
      4. Get to know yourself. Take time to reflect on your values and how you really want to
         live.<\/li>
      5. Learn to appreciate who you are now \u2013 faults and merits \u2013 and others will too.<\/li>
      6. If you wish to change who you are, first develop your focus skill. Then, I recommend
         staying focused on changing one big area or perhaps two small areas at a time
         (whatever your willpower will allow, which typically isn\u2019t much).<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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